Many British athletes in the spotlight avoid disclosing their personal lives to the public but could make a real difference if they did. Not just for the young athletes but to the parents/grandparents/family/friends etc of a young athlete.
I try to be more visible about it now than I was then, because I want to encourage a cultural climate where other young trans people can feel enthusiastic about their decisions rather than ashamed or afraid.
Women’s ice hockey is pretty open to gay athletes, but I found that in rowing and track it was slightly harder to come out. Each sport’s mentality is different, and thus causes coming out to be a different experience.
I compete at my best when I have a clear head and zero distractions. If I’ve got the worry of coming out, judgement, people’s opinion of my sexuality, etc on my mind then there’s no chance I’d be able to compete well.
It is good to have separate LGBT leagues because it allows a safe space for LGBT athletes to play the game where they will not need to worry about being judged by others for their sexual orientation.
My mother’s reaction was not understanding or loving. I was told that it wasn’t true, that I did not like women and that I did not know what I was talking about.
When I was a young athlete, I was so scared. I wished I had someone tell me everything will be ok.
Every one of my friends and family knows I prefer women. I find it much easier this way, because when everybody knows, I can just be myself and don’t have to hide my sexuality.
You can do this, soon you will play with the boys if you want to.
Being an athlete, especially at the highest level, provides a great public platform to set an example, particularly for younger individuals.
I doubted for a very long time and was in complete denial. Once I knew, I also found it very difficult to tell my team.
If you are good at what you do and put in the effort, that is all that matters. People recognize hard work.
Sports should bring people together. Everyone is different and diverse and that’s what makes it so beautiful.
Racing is a very masculine sport so I was worried it may harm my racing career, and possibly coaching too. But staying hidden was nothing but torture and pain. You kind of live two lives and over time it wears you down and you feel depressed.
I’ve never faced any sort of problem being a gay athlete. But there were more openly gay athletes in Rio as it becomes less stigmatised to come out publicly.
Who you are or who you love doesn’t change the way you play the game.
I have never been scared to lose sponsors. I thought it was a strength of my personality to show them who I really am.
As a coach, you often touch your gymnasts to help to execute their exercises. So when I asked if they didn’t think it was weird that I touched them, they told me they had never even thought about this.
There are a lot of other athletes in the trampoline and tumbling world who are gay. Seeing how they were accepted made it easier for me to come out.
I’ve always played with older girls, so I always had examples. I’ve always perceived lesbian girls as something normal.
I’ve had times when I felt I had to pretend I was straight. Actually that was just to avoid negative reactions, because after a while you get sick of being targeted all the time.
In the end, I think there are much more people who respect you for what you dare to do, than people who disrespect you for who you are.
What really helped me to take the decision to come out, was the fact that I had already achieved a lot in sports. I became world champion, broke a number of world records and won the Belgian championship several times. So I already had proven myself and was confident about myself.
I didn’t have anyone as an example, I cannot name one person who took the same path as I did. In the beginning, I really felt like an intruder in women’s sports. And that is something that should be tackled.
I am constantly in contact with my coach as I work with him on a daily basis. So I thought he should know. I cannot work with someone who does not know me.